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If you have reached the age of 25, I have a bit of bad news for you, to wit: it is time, if you have not already done so, for you to emerge from your cocoon of post-adolescent dithering and self-absorption and join the rest of us in the world. Past the quarter-century mark, you see, certain actions, attitudes, and behaviors will simply no longer do, and while it might seem unpleasant to feign a maturity and solicitousness towards others that you may not genuinely feel, it is not only appreciated by others but necessary for your continued survival. Continuing to insist past that point that good manners, thoughtfulness, and grooming oppress you in some way is inappropriate and irritating.Good stuff for kids of any age.Grow up.
And when I instruct you to grow up, I do not mean that you must read up on mortgage rates, put aside candy necklaces, or desist from substituting the word "poo" for crucial syllables of movie titles. Silliness is not only still permitted but actively encouraged. You must, however, stop viewing carelessness, tardiness, helplessness, or any other quality better suited to a child as either charming or somehow beyond your control. A certain grace period for the development of basic consideration and self-sufficiency is assumed, but once you have turned 25, the grace period is over, and starring in a film in your head in which you walk the earth alone is no longer considered a valid lifestyle choice, but rather grounds for exclusion from social occasions.
And now, for those of you who might have misplaced them, marching orders for everyone born before 1980.






BROOKFIELD - James Patrick Murphy, 49, of Brookfield, formerly of Springfield, passed away suddenly of cardiac arrest on Tuesday, Dec. 16, 2008, at Adventist Hospital. He was affectionately known as "Jim" to his friends and family.
Jim was born on May 8, 1959, in Decatur, the son of R. Richard Murphy and Eleanor Edith Rimini Murphy. He married Rosemary Lynch of Oak Park in 1996.
He graduated from Quincy College (now Quincy University) with a bachelor's degree in music business. He graduated from Griffin High School in Springfield in 1977.
He was employed as an accountant for the Lyric Opera Company of Chicago where he had worked for more than 20 years and where he found and met his loving wife, Rosemary.
Jim was an accomplished jazz musician who played saxophone with various ensembles in Chicago and in his early career was part of a band that recorded with a major studio in New York. He had also recently begun an exploration of his Celtic roots playing the Irish whistle in several traditional Celtic bands in the Chicago area.
He was an avid cross country skier and had recently taken up the sport of bowhunting. This latter activity allowed for frequent return trips to central Illinois and was just beginning to provide the opportunity to reconnect with family and friends in his hometown.
He is survived by his wife, Rosemary Lynch of Brookfield; a brother, Michael (wife, Jean) Murphy and a sister, Michelle (husband, Mark) McHenry of Springfield; and numerous nieces and nephews who hold him in fond regard.
Family will receive friends for a visitation on Friday, Dec. 19, 2008, from 4 to 8 p.m. and Saturday, Dec. 20, 2008, at 10 a.m. until time of prayer service at 11 a.m. at Drechsler, Brown & Williams Funeral Home, 203 S. Marion St., Oak Park. Information at (708) 383-3191. Internment services at Queen of Heaven Cemetery.
A memorial fund is being established in his name at the Lyric Opera Company of Chicago.